we always lose someone to depression and mental illness. in fear of this, i found myself messaging my close friends that a cup of coffee and a laughter bout may be just what we need when the though of losing to depression hits us.
while talking about the topic to a dear friend, i had these reflections which were an outpouring of my thoughts and feelings. the words were to good not to immortalize so here goes:
I understand the scatterbrainness, well, maybe to a certain extent. I think I can never really imagine being a parent since i am not a parent to many cute and needy babies! however, each person has their own version of this neediness: pets, work, aging parents, dying patients, differently abled family members. There is indeed a segment of the day which is like quick sand or when it's so difficult to breathe because of sooooo many thiiiiiings!
When confused, I try to read a bit of the bible and call friends and rant. (Every day kami nag tatawagan ng friends to rant). Rant ka lang minsan when you need.
operation dagdag bawas lang PRN.
Ang hirap dahil ang layo ng mga tao, but we must take advantage of what technology has to offer. Kanina nga, I called up another friend, with our matching ranting session and promise that I would visit her if i would happen to be in her area. (with matching though bubble in my head, kailan kaya yun? ). We really must make time.
Its really easy to feel negligent because we are doing so many things and are so busy. Bawas tayo ng bawas ng ginagawa, but inertia really puts a lot of things in our plate, a lot of things that we really don’t want to do. But at least, we have our friends who push us in the mindfulness direction, those friends who ask the difficult question:
bakit mo ba ginagawa yan? ...those who help us to fight to take away which is useless. It’s a daily effort, I now find.
bakit mo ba ginagawa yan? ...those who help us to fight to take away which is useless. It’s a daily effort, I now find.
Don’t worry, kahit ako, iniisip ko, itong ______ (insert hated and dreaded task in this blank) na lang na ito tapos tapos na. Hahahahahahah. Pero hindi natatapos. however, there is that hope that we move on to more things...maybe more complicated things...but at least there is a promise of more things that we will grow into and give us joy.
A wise friend also told me....the Beauty of clutter is that they are things and things are finite. Mauubos din sila. (sana, totoo din ito for limville!)
A wise friend always tells me: The best is yet to come.
i share these thoughts with special people who help me each time kahit malayo kayo, and are so patient amidst all the many many things we have to do: Marivic Lim Pingol Monalisa Lim-Dungca Mitzi Mangaser RegalaArlene Afaga Cha-cha Geronimo Van Derick Mangulabnan Mae Quintal Quetua Dianne Aguila JuanPaolo Dela Cruz Lagunzad Aromaz AllyrosTherese Eileen LN Will Liangco Diana Tamondong-Lachica Will LiangcoEliza Mia Dejoras
go go go!
here is to a more intentional 2019. may we Mari Kondo our life: keep only the things that spark joy!
